From the moment our soul enters our bodies we as tiny little humans are subjected to many many different trials. Most are the standard things we all need to learn, like taking a tumble when we first try to walk or putting non food items in our mouths as we figure out exactly what is and what isn’t edible. For many of us we were faced with situations that were far ahead of our own processing abilities. Without having someone there to accurately explain what was going on. This leaves us with an unfinished story. Human brains love stories. We love a beginning, a middle and an end. But these situations that left our tiny little brains confused gave us a beginning and a middle, but no end. When we have no ending to a story we will unconsciously replay or repeat the story in as many ways as we can possibly think of in a desperate attempt to understand why we felt that way in the first place.

This leaves our adolescent and adult years full of frustrating patterns. Constantly asking ourselves “why am I doing this again”. This can show up in our romantic relationships, our work places, our friendships and even the relationships with ourselves. Our nervous systems don’t know the difference between past and present so if a situation is close enough to that old story we are trying to finish it will activate and take us right back to the middle of that story.

I refuse to believe we need to be stuck in these old stories for the rest of our lives.